Love In Relationships: The 3 Stages of Love

Unconditional Love or Horse-Trading in Your Relationship?

Are you experiencing the level of depth and connection in your intimate relationship that you deserve?

Your intimate relationship can bring you the greatest pleasures in your life but it can also deliver heartache, resentment and frustration.

There are 3 Stages of Love in Relationship:

  1. Baby Love
  2. Conditional Love &
  3. Unconditional Love

Stage 1: Baby Love

‘It’s all about me’

This is Selfish Love and the complete DANGER ZONE in relationships and typically where they end.

He doesn’t do this, he’s not doing that and there is never a reflection as to what you’re not doing for him.

This is no place to be in a relationship. Go deeper and open yourself. Practice self-love and nurturing first so your own love tank is full to enable you to give to your partner.

Stage 2: Conditional Love


This is the Partnership. At its best you’re great friends and its worst you’re trading everything to get what you want!

“I’ll do something for you, if you do something for me”

In the Partnership you’ll likely spend many years together but the DANGER here is you’ll lose all polarity in your relationship and your intimacy.

Often, in search of polarity, the women will become more Masculine and controlling and the man more Feminine.

At this stage you’re shutting each other down rather than opening each other up.

Stage 3: Unconditional Love

‘Giving & Expansion’

This is about GIVING, loving your partner unconditionally, being in Presence and seeing them for who they truly are.

“Your needs are my needs”

Unconditional Love is where the beauty exists and your relationship expands you. On the masculine feminine journey you take each other even further than you could go by yourself.

I learnt these originally from Tony Robbins and I have witnessed many relationships grow into Unconditional Love and Fulfillment.

The 90 Day Challenge

If you are experiencing a Relationship Challenge take the 90 Day Challenge.

Break the patterns of the Baby Love and Conditional Love Stages and spend the next 90 days Opening and Giving to your partner. You know what they love, how to praise them, and how to see them for who they truly are.

Open, Be Vulnerable, and Give Of Yourself.

Watch my latest episode of NatashaTV here...

Your Mantra for Your Soul:

I am Open
I am Love
I am Giving

Experience your openness, feel it through your body, and feel what you can give.

You deserve a beautiful relationship that opens you, expands your life, and brings you happiness.

Until next time...

Shine your light, be present, and love your life

Much love,

by Natasha Girvan